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Relationship Therapists Review Issa & Lawrence’s Relationship in ‘Insecure’ | Vanity Fair

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September 8, 2020

Relationship therapists Laura Heck and Zach Brittle break down Issa and Lawrence’s relationship in HBO’s ‘Insecure’ and analyze their “roommate” relationship dynamic, how they both dealt with infidelity, and how Issa and Lawrence evolved from season to season.

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Laura Heck and Zach Brittle are certified Gottman therapists and relationship experts. As a public speaker and author, respectively, their insights on therapy have reached the masses. Check out the institute they’re a part of and their Marriage Therapy podcast at the links below:

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36 Comments

Lindelwa Sibeko

September 8, 2020 at 4:04 pm

First????

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Siddhant Singh

September 8, 2020 at 4:04 pm

How to overcome break up sorrow at the age 18????

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Noah Houle

September 8, 2020 at 4:05 pm

I don’t know why this was recommended but I am now invested in someone else’s relationship ????

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- Karena Benford
  
  September 8, 2020 at 5:24 pm
  
  Insecure is a great show!! I’ve been totally invested in Issa and Lawrence since the beginning.
  
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Saraiki Veer

September 8, 2020 at 4:06 pm

بسم اللہ الرحمٰن الرحیم السلام علیکم سپورٹ کریں غریب ہوں پلیز

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Ximena Vera

September 8, 2020 at 4:07 pm

She’s the best!! Love her ❤️

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1 sub before 2021?

September 8, 2020 at 4:08 pm

To the Early Squad Reading This: Sending Virtual hugs to everyone who needs it. Always stay safe, Read my name ????

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Melas Johnson

September 8, 2020 at 4:08 pm

Lol

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*insert type*

September 8, 2020 at 4:09 pm

I’m loving this series

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NinaMos

September 8, 2020 at 4:14 pm

Representation matters. Would have loved to see this review done by POC therapists to provide cultural context and insights overlooked in the current review.

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- 90sVenus
  
  September 8, 2020 at 6:14 pm
  
  @Josh Judge race matters. Lawrence as a black man was going through depression and in the black community mental health issues are ignored. That’s just one example of something that needs to be talked about.
  
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- icechipz
  
  September 8, 2020 at 6:55 pm
  
  This is SUCH a reach. So only black people can articulate or dissect black shows? Come on. These people are trained at what they do, and ALL of their analyses are on point. So what would have been different.
  And before you try to come for me, I’m black. Representation matters, but that doesnt mean only people of the same race can analyze a show ffs!!!
  
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- 90sVenus
  
  September 8, 2020 at 6:59 pm
  
  @icechipz no one said only black people can analyze black shows LOL she said that she would have loved for a therapist who was a person of color to explain some of the cultural issues that were present in those clips. I’m going to need you to calm down because you’re being a little emotional about something that’s really a positive thing when you think about it.
  
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- NinaMos
  
  September 8, 2020 at 7:15 pm
  
  90sVenus thank you. It’s so draining to explain the many ways our race, culture and to a large degree traumas impact our responses to relationship conflict (like Issa and Lawrence); corporate/professional behaviors etc. Anyone responding with “but why”, I’m convinced is doing so purely to be contrarian.
  
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- 90sVenus
  
  September 8, 2020 at 7:19 pm
  
  @NinaMos I normally don’t try to explain because even some black people don’t get it so it’s a waste of time. To think others will.
  
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Jupiter Wilky May

September 8, 2020 at 4:23 pm

this series can easily be a TV show

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Isabela August

September 8, 2020 at 4:25 pm

I wish they analysed Issa and Molly’s relationship, I find it even more interesting and complex. I feel like a lot people lose important friendships because we don’t really have the study and understanding of friend relationships like we have of romantic relationships, even though it’s just as important sometimes even more…

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- icechipz
  
  September 8, 2020 at 6:49 pm
  
  Yes! This would have been so good! Especially with how season 4 went down. Theres a LOT to unpack with molly and Issa’s relationship
  
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Arawal Rrr

September 8, 2020 at 4:26 pm

He (therapist) tries too hard to side with the woman (actress) to seem woke but in reality she is in the wrong

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- Sarah Chesley
  
  September 8, 2020 at 4:52 pm
  
  They both in the wrong tho
  
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- Ma'Rya
  
  September 8, 2020 at 5:56 pm
  
  Their both professionals?
  
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Patsy Chandler

September 8, 2020 at 4:37 pm

13:43 I love that. Do you love me? ???????? ????????❤️

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Genevieve

September 8, 2020 at 4:46 pm

One of the reasons I fell off of Insecure was seeing the parallels of this relationship to my own in my twenties. (Lots of differences as well, mind you but enough is similar that I would get a tight chest and chills while watching.) It’s strange because listening to the therapists discuss allowed me to reflect on my own past situation. This is a first ???? Usually it’s just fun and informative and not this personal!

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Dana Stirling

September 8, 2020 at 4:58 pm

That is deep cheating occurs in the mind way before it actually happens dang

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Mia Nicole

September 8, 2020 at 5:10 pm

Never watched “Insecure” and now I want to. Lol

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- Karena Benford
  
  September 8, 2020 at 5:25 pm
  
  Do ittttttttttt
  
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Lebohang Moabelo

September 8, 2020 at 5:13 pm

I haven’t finished watching this but you should do definitely Molly and Issa next.

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Soleil DeJoi

September 8, 2020 at 5:18 pm

Absolutely loved this

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happyMOO5

September 8, 2020 at 5:20 pm

She said #teamlawrence all day! lol

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Ma'Rya

September 8, 2020 at 6:05 pm

I think context matters, it would’ve helped them both. Issa was wrong for cheating and not communicating. Lawrence was wrong for not being present for Issa, but he was in a dark place. She didn’t say something sooner and help him get out that place. But it couldn’t have to have to be completely on her. He was communicating also.

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Ma'Rya

September 8, 2020 at 6:06 pm

I think context matters, it would’ve helped them both. Issa was wrong for cheating and not communicating. Lawrence was wrong for not being present for Issa, but he was in a dark place. She didn’t say something sooner and help him get out that place. But it couldn’t have to have to be completely on her. He wasnt communicating also.

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Ben Henderson

September 8, 2020 at 6:15 pm

What the

*Heck?*

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- Ben Henderson
  
  September 8, 2020 at 6:15 pm
  
  I’m sorry
  
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icechipz

September 8, 2020 at 6:47 pm

Ooo #LawrenceHive

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icechipz

September 8, 2020 at 7:03 pm

The lady therapist is so on point!! Just spittin straight facts!!

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Welson Oliveira

September 8, 2020 at 7:33 pm

yes, yes, yes, OMG yes, I’m so ready for this video. okay, I’m gonna watch it now.

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